Karwa-Chauth. It is a festive originally belonging to north India with numerous tales
behind it. But it is a festive- a festive, which was considered as festive of a married woman in
earlier times. Although nowadays it has been turned into a trendy thing for unmarried girls
too. Bollywood has added a lot of glamour to it and the festive is now more of flaunting
new dresses and jewelry among many women. The festive apart from being many tales
associated has its own significance. Karwa-Chauth denotes the bond between the married
couple. Ask Divya considers the festive as a way to celebrate the lifetime bond of the
couple. It is a blessing that was passed from our ancestors to us along with a lesson that
amidst numerous struggles of life, don’t forget to celebrate the bond which brought
further lives into existence.
Now in modern India when many females are appearing with their flag of feminism with a
question about the validation of the festive, few are celebrating just for the sake of
getting gifts. The views are divided in two- where one group appreciates the festive and the
other rebels about it. Ask Divya has tried to put forth the essence of Karwachauth in
a realistic and deep manner. It is the attempt of Ask Divya to justify the need for
celebrating the festival for the nourishment of the marital bond.
The festive with no doubt was started with a purpose behind it. In fact, all the festive pulls
you out of the monotonous lifestyle and adds a spark to life. On a similar note,
Karwa Chauth also is festive, which if taken with pure essence helps to strengthen the
husband-wife bond.
The irony is that for most couples, the festive gets limited to buying new clothes,
jewelry, expensive gifts, and eating no food the whole day. With all the superficial things, the
festive happens to lose its real meaning. Ask Divya suggests that the festive can really
work as a blessing for bringing the closeness among couple- to vanish the emotional
distance. It brings a ray of hope to rethink all the vows the couple took when they got
married. Not superficially- but by understanding the meaning behind it.
You can’t give or take someone’s life but yes, you can make it blissful. If the emotional
distance between the couple is lowered, it eventually would bring mental peace and
relaxation. “Ek sukoon jo har insan chahta hai.”
The idea is to pass the message to celebrate the real essence of festive. You may buy
anything – whatever you want, if your finances allow you but not on the stake of financial stress for
your partner.
Yes- it is true that physical appearance does impart a role to lure your partner. It is one
of the important factors for physical intimacy. But physical intimacy is shallow if
emotional intimacy is lacking.
You are beautiful- from within. You can show to the world but the heart knows the truth.
Flaunting can satisfy your ego temporarily but spending quality time with your partner,
and opening your heart in front of your partner would have another level of satisfaction. Trust me-
it wouldn’t be temporary. It would rather add life and comfort to your relationship.
Being a relationship counselor in Ask Divya, one thing I have seen in couples is that
a maximum of issues arise from the lack of effective communication. Couples listen only to
respond, not to understand.
This Karwa Chauth- Ask Divya urge to add this small factor to your festive. Try your best
to understand at least one aspect of your partner’s perspective. For today, keep the ego
aside and only the love inside. It is a love festive- let’s celebrate with pure love.
Happy Karwachauth to all the ladies and gentlemen.
Ask Divya is happy to help couples struggling in their relationship to strengthen their
bond.